I Believe In You – Trusting Your Spouse And Learning To Trust In Them

Over the past several decades iconic music videos have been released that took bad, one hit wonder, mediocre and even excellent songs to iconic status.  Though I’ll confess that I’ve hardly stayed on top of recent releases, one of the most excellent songs I’ve heard in recent years was became even more legendary for me when they killed it with a most amazing music video.

Michael Buble’s “I Believe In You” is not only catchy, but it says so perfect what Shannon and I regularly strive to extend to each other in our marriage:

Time goes by and I’ve been holding everything inside
But now I’ve got nothing left to hide when I’m with you oh you
But I can see how strong a man I’m gonna have to be
To do for you what comes so naturally it’s in the way you move
And all I want is a chance to prove show all I can do

I believe in starting over I can see that your heart is true
I believe in good things coming back to you
You’re the light that lifts me higher so bright you guide me through
I believe in you

And I don’t mind If you want to hold on to me tight
You don’t have to sleep along tonight if you don’t want to
And all I want is to know you’re near you’re all I need here

I believe in starting over I can see that your heart is true
I believe in good things coming back to you
You’re the light that lifts me higher so bright you guide me through
I believe in you

I know that there are times when you feel worthless
Like all the love you get you don’t deserve it
Sometimes I feel my faith is just a burden on you

I believe in starting over I can see your heart is true
I believe in love you give me reason to
You’re the light that lifts me higher so high up in the sky
I think we’re gonna fly

I believe in starting over I can see that your heart is true
I believe in love you give me reason to
You’re the light that lifts me higher so bright you guide me through
I believe in you

I believe in you I believe in you
You guide me through I believe in you

Featuring Derek Hough and Jenya Shatilova (Chaplin), the storyline and choreography bring to life a central message of marriage and of the song itself: “it’s enough to know you’re here”.  We live in a time where there are lots of distractions, lots of messages and mechanisms that vie for our attention in every direction and so many families have lost their sense of simplicity and perspective in favor of screens and sound bytes, only to retrospectively experience regret that is sometimes beyond recovery.

The song and video capture so wonderfully the various stages of growth and excitement in a relationship, but also the defining moments where misguided priorities lead to damaging conflict.  Yet a guiding principle keeps this couple on track: believing in each other.  I often revel at the fact that not only do I trust my wife, but I trust in her.  I consider the latter to be the more impressive.  Trust is most commonly defined as fidelity and frankly this aspect of trust should be a given in any relationship (this is why it is so painful for those who experience the opposite).  However, to trust in your spouse means so much more.  For example, I trust in my wife’s counsel.  I trust in her talents.  I trust in her abilities as a mom and a wife.  I trust in her to represent me (truth be told she makes me look far better than I do on my own!).  Simply put, I believe in her.

While romantic relationships certainly begin with an implied level of trust, and certainly marriages take that trust to a deeper level, to trust in someone is the result of doing life together.  The song couldn’t capture this any better: “I can see your heart is true.  I believe in love, you give me reason to. You’re the light that lifts me higher so bright you guide me through…” 

As I consider the strength of the team I’m a part of, in light of Buble’s video, I likewise conclude for my wife and I: “I think we’re gonna fly.”


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